"I didn't know what I wanted. I just knew what I had wasn't it."
My name is Tamara Cortoos. I spent over 20 years in business and hit the midlife wall myself at 44.
Now I'm a midlife coach based in Leuven (Belgium), working in English and Dutch with individuals and organisations across Europe. I help people work out what comes next in their career, their life, or both.
Hi, I'm Tamara!
My background is in brand strategy, which is about identity: how it’s built, how it evolves and what to do when it no longer reflects reality.
I spent over 20 years applying that brand logic to businesses, sitting in boardrooms, building and leading teams across multiple countries.
At 44, I had to apply it to myself.
Most coaches haven’t been through all of that.
I have.
If you’re figuring out what’s next in your life or career → I can help.
If you’re trying to keep experienced people engaged in your organisation → I can help with that too.
Who I work with
The people I work with don’t always look like they need help.
To be honest, on paper everything often seems fine.
But something has stopped working. Sometimes it’s their career. Other times it’s their relationship. Some people have lost their sense of who they are.
And they’ve run out of ways to push through it. We work out what’s changed, and where to go from there.
Before you do something you can't undo - read this first
Most people I work with aren’t stuck because they lack options.
They’re stuck because they haven’t looked at the situation clearly yet.
Nine times out of ten, midlifers have work on their mind. Changing jobs. Quitting and moving to Bali. Retraining. Starting a business.
Sometimes that’s exactly the right call.
But often people make those decisions before they’ve understood what’s actually wrong with their work situation and end up in the same place two years later, just with a different job title.
These 15 questions won’t tell you what to do. But they’ll make sure you’re solving the right problem before you blow up the wrong thing.
